If you are an early teenager, I can bet this is your recent issue. How you can convince your mom to buy you a first cupped, who knows, even padded, more… lacy bra! How to even start the subject? Haven’t she noticed the one you have is not giving you the support anymore?
Every girl needs one sooner or later. Exactly, and this is the main reason why it is hard for moms to figure out when there is the right time to take you shopping for an adult bra. Even if you are still her sweet good girl, the cupped bra is a signal, you re becoming a woman and are closer to become an independent one! This vision is overwhelming to some moms.
Besides that, there is no worry. It is not too easy to ask for something when it is not offered naturally. Especially, if you never owned it before and it is related to an intimate part of your body. If you know how to use the right argumeants, it will be easier for you to start the subject.
There is really not the perfect time you can do it, but make sure your mom has time to talk. Just say: “ Mom, I think I have outgrown the bra I have, could we go and buy the bra that gives more support? This one is not doing its job anymore”. Most likely, that is enough. What seemed scary is not in reality. She might say, “Alright, good you told me. Let’s go”. She might ask what kind of bra you were thinking about.
She might also ask, what’s wrong with this one. Then you will have to rephrase it or provide her with more expert information (although she should be an expert herself). You can describe where the discomfort is coming from. Heavy breasts, saggy breasts (they don’t have to be big to sag a bit), you can meantion other girls having the cup bra for a while already, cloths fitting ugly. I would mainly stick to the health and comfort issue though, as obviously your mom will be most concerned about it. Wearing underwire, cupped bra prevents later skin stretching and sagging of the breasts. The band in cupped bras provides the biggest support. When it is tight enough, it even adds to the breast lift. In result, helps to relax your back more. Incorrectly sized or styled bra can be responsible for back and headaches!
If you have a really close relationship with a mother, the bra subject can appear extremely bonding. You mom can start recalling her memories of being a teenage girl, desires of wanting a really beautiful bra, her first intimate momeants. There is nothing wrong with wanting a girly or elegant cup or padded bra. Bras are made for a woman to make her feel proud and confident! They are not made only to be admired by men!
Now, get your confidence together, imagine the bra you dream about and go ask! She won’t bite. The worst can happen – you will have to teach her some science and fashion news or remind her a bit about her younger years.